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Louise Walker Writes's avatar

My husband only ever wanted two kids, so a third was never really seriously on the table. But my second was such a lovely chill newborn that I couldn't shake the idea of having a third, that I hadn't got that feeling that my family was complete. But then I had that 'cup of tea' moment - literally. My 18 month old and 5 year old played together quietly for enough time for me to finish a warm cup of tea in peace. My body is slowly coming back to as much of itself as it can, me and my husband are gradually reclaiming some semblance of social lives (separately of course as we can't get evening childcare). I'm getting more freedom, my tea is getting drunk warm. I think I can finally accept that my family actually is complete.

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Guen Bradbury's avatar

I found it took about a year to come to terms with not having a fourth baby. I was very lucky to have three incredible births and the hormonal euphoria was really addictive. I could see how people would keep having babies to keep getting that feeling. So I had to park the decision for a year and see how I felt when I revisited it. I still waver sometimes, but now the decision is easier because my three are growing up and I don't want one on their own. :)

Thank you for this very thought-provoking article!

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