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Laura McInnes's avatar

Sometimes it is okay to communicate with your child that mummy just needs a minute. I often say that, make sure they are safe with toys and take myself off for 5 minutes of just being myself, in the quiet. We can’t keep walking the tightrope of being close to being the shouty mum we don’t want to be if we don’t look after ourselves and do something about extracting ourselves from a situation which is breaking us!! Sometimes it is the Rice Krispies, sometimes it is the 400th mumma and sometimes we just slept badly and don’t have much to give. It is all normal.

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Sam Davidge's avatar

If it’s any consolation, I have one and I have had an outburst of tears and anger this morning. Not because she’s done anything wrong, but because I am so overwhelmed and angry at how much my life has changed, how much I have to consider before doing ANYTHING AT ALL, how little money I have left at the end of the month and relying on my husband to pay for anything “fun” (which pre-child would have been considered “normal”. I want my independence and choices back, and no one told me this would all change the second my daughter arrived.

I wouldn’t change having her for the world, but I’m not me anymore. I’m everyone else, and everyone else’s brain, but not me. And I’m sad about it.

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